Skating parents try to confide in me about their
child's coach's issues of not recognizing their child's talent. About a month ago, a parent was miffed when her child didn't pass into Freestyle 3. She could barely do the elements in 1 & 2, and not do them with any speed or strength. The coaches wanted her to stay back an work on her muscle development. This child does very well in school, but I tried to explain to a non-skating parent how hard skating is and that holding her back was also for her own safety. Wobbly jumps and spins can lead to broken bones and concussions. While the parent was nodding with me, I could tell that she just wanted her daughter to get up a level. So, I tried to explain USFSA judging and how kids are not passed until there is mastery shown. And, how many 'disappointed' kids were at the last testing. Skating teaches persistence. To no avail. Mom really thought that daughter spent 10 weeks in a class, and it's the coach's fault if her daughter couldn't do it. So, they stopped skating. I don't know how to change a parent's expectations.