I wonder also ... my kid has been a quiet shoulder to thump on/cry on/mentor whatever, for quite a few younger skaters. He has offered support and encouragement to the on-again/off again jumpers and skaters, because he's been there himself quite a bit over the years. As he's now one of the senior competitive skaters at our rink, he's got a certain amount of credibility with the kids who are frustrated, and when they hear that his axel came and went and came and went ... and so on ... they listen and are encouraged. Similarly, a parent who has "been there" is a good resource for the frustrated parents (my shoulder seems to have a bit of a permanent dent/damp spot from being used that way, and happy to do it, too, of course).
Is there someone at your rink that could do the mentor role, either skater or parent? Seeing a live "end product" can be quite reassuring and convincing.