That's awesome though that she has your support, and is starting to stand up for herself. So many kids just learn to look to mom and/or dad to fix things for them. There are some pretty sad college stories out there, like the one where the parent followed her daughter to classes the first week, even sat in the classes to make sure they were 'right' for her daughter!
Since most skaters are not going to be Olympic material (we send 18 skaters maximum to Worlds each year) the skating experience is more of a life-lesson one. You don't always win, you learn to share space and to look where you are going, you have to get along with all kinds of people. You get 1 1/2 to 4+ minutes to show the judges what you are made of, and that's a great skill to have.