In ice dance (at least at the low levels where I operate) the man isn't supposed to out shine the lady. The lady is the "picture" the man is the "frame" is what I've heard over and over. Having said that, there are examples of outrageous customs at the elite level. Perhaps Johnny Weir could be consulted in this regard. I'm sure he'd have plenty of guidance to offer! Tara L., by comparison, seems almost frumpy at times.