I'm surprised that your figure skating director is so involved in choosing your coach. A figure skating director might only recommend coaches who have few students, and maybe aren't very good at teaching.
If ice dance appeals to you, that's fine. If it only appeals to the figure skating director to have you dance, and not you, it's not.
Can you ask the good skaters, especially adults, who their coach is, and get contact info from the students? For that matter, a lot of those good skaters are also coaches. Some of them are good at it. Even the good skaters who happen to be teenagers have to have more self discipline and attention to detail than most teenagers. That doesn't necessarily mean they are good at teaching you, but they might be. Of course you may have to teach any coach how to teach you - e.g., you may want more words, more demos, more complete demos, more repetition, "show me", "move my body", "explain", etc.