Judging . . . .
Eons ago, when I was a snot nosed, school-aged twiggy girl on the ice . . . I was "too embarrassed" to hold my arms out when I skated. Coach Bob took me aside. We had a discussion about my self-consciousness. I was afraid that by putting out my arms, people would watch me . . .. . (i.e. they'd judge me). Coach Bob asked me to pick out the good skaters at the rink, and to watch whether or not they had their arms out. They did. Then, he said this, "Neverdull, there is always going to be someone better and worse on the ice than you." Then, he had me pick out someone who was worse than me. He asked me if I constantly thought about that other person on the ice. I didn't. I said something like, "No, I am worried about what I am doing and learning." He said, "Precisely".
(In other words, everyone on the ice is pretty self absorbed. So, get over yourself. No one is really watching you. They are worried about improving themselves. This is a solo sport. Be the best that you can be. Cheer on the others in their triumphs and help them up if they fall too hard. And, skate with your arms out.) And, once you get being self-conscious out of your mind, you can really skate!