As a parent, I will say....if parents would excuse themselves from the skating world things would be much better!
HAHA.....I know that can't and wouldn't ever happen. Parents, Coaches and Skaters have to form a perfect triangle and work together! Each side needs to balance each other out in order to keep that triangle together. What is important to remember is that it's "Your" triangle. It doesn't belong to any other skater or parent. Imagine your triangle as a magnet. All the other skaters have their own triangles. When their triangles become out of balance, it works like a magnet to pull yours apart as well (sometimes, not all the time). As a parent, it's our responsibility to keep our perfectly working triangles together no matter how much outside interference there is.
With this said, it's also common courtesy to ignore other's triangles and not to meddle so much in what's working and what's not! This is where parents go wrong, IMO. To keep on the triangle theme...... It's as if we see a skate, coach, parent triangle that seems much shinier, pretty, stronger, more fun, etc.... and we want that triangle instead of the one we have! Therefore we start to look for cracks in our own. i.e. The coach is different now, that skater is learning faster, that skater has more lesson time, that coach cares more, that parent gets what she/he wants all the time.....I could go on and on! Well, the age old saying that if you look for the negatives you will find them, will certainly happen here. If you look for cracks in your own triangle, you'll find them! Nothing is perfect.
I have personally had to do some "triangle" shifting....some have fallen apart and some just didn't work. However, after many lessons learned - I have come to realize that nothing is perfect, most everything is out of my control as a parent and I have to trust my instinct and work to preserve our "triangle".
I hope my analogy of the triangle makes sense. I wish someone would have educated me back when my daughter and I were new to this sport. However, I probably wouldn't have listened! HAHA I think it may have to be something we must learn. I do believe whole heartedly that those cannot or won't learn this (especially the meddling part) don't last long in this sport!
Just my 2 cents! Relax, have fun, and focus on your triangle and no one else's!